I received a phone call that really did change my life. My farmer husband was involved in an accident that fully amputated his right arm, gross to think about I know!
In true Angie style I only took 1 day off work and carried on as normal, hospital visiting around work hours. This wasn’t anything to do with my bosses, they wanted me to take some time off, but it was the only way I could cope. I needed my ‘normal’.
We’re now further down the line as just as things were settling down, I was made redundant which then tipped me upside down again but also gave me time to think, what do I need? What does hubby need? And actually how am I really coping??
How many of us give ourselves time? There’s the initial panic of what is next, and I’ve got to find another job. At this point I knew I needed help. Luckily, I was put in touch with an amazing counsellor via my GP to help me through my summer trauma. The waiting list for IAPT (Improving Access to Psychological Therapies) is huge but she knew that Age UK was shorter and deals with all ages. I only waited a matter of weeks and wow how that allowed me to find me again! Not only did we talk about my hubby but the biggest journey I went through was loss. Not only had I lost a right arm which sounds odd, but I no longer had that hand to hold but also when we lose our jobs, we lose our “2nd families” and “our children” and it’s huge. After 20 years nannying this is where I decided I needed to redirect my career and make changes – that’s for another blog.
I wouldn’t wish what I’ve been through on anyone, but things happen, big or small and effect everyone in different ways and nannying can be a lonely job. Finding your way through is not always easy and admitting it can be even harder but:
It’s OK to talk
It’s OK to ask for help
PS. Hubby is learning to use his left arm and is doing well…..
World mental health day 10th October 2019 www.mentalhealth.org.uk